I met Bob at a restaurant on a summer afternoon in 2014.
I was enjoying a glass of white wine and sharing an entree with a good friend when he sat down next to us at the bar.
(And though he constantly disparaged her for it while they were together, he also grudgingly admitted he chose her for “school smarts", too).
Such mansplaining is one of the many reasons I don't want to date significantly older men.
While sexism knows no age barrier, in my experience, the older men I've met are far less likely to treat me as an equal.
I thanked him for his interest, but let him know that that wouldn't be happening. He asked me to reconsider and retain “an open mind.” I felt frustration and anger boil up inside me as I looked at this man three decades my senior, who had manipulated me into a meeting under false pretences and then dismissed my refusal of his advances as close-minded. Instead, I ignored his emails until he finally gave up.
Being hit on by men who are considerably older was not new to me.
But this was the first time it occurred in person and with such aggression.